18 April, 2013

2nd day home from de Beginning 17 April 2013


Must admit there is a feeling of touched, to come back and lay down at the very familiar and comfy bed called your room. At the same time, you feel like a prisoner. Every movement you do were observed, evaluate and restricted.. Amazingly, you cannot believe as an adult, there must be something wrong with EVERY SINGLE THING you do that caused you being victim of BUBBLING.. 
“Here’s your towel.. hang at the 1st rack; Hot water here.. No.. use this mug.. that’s your mom’s.. we don’t mix around; Instant coffee  is at 2nd drawer; Wear this slipper around de house.. clean your feet before enter ur room; Wait… use small plate when eat biscuit; Don’t use de hand soap outside after using de toilet.. it’s to be washed after meal.. I’ve put another bottle of hand soap inside; If de door in your room stuck, lift it up while turning the key… ; Does the air conditioner cool enough?; Mattress is new.. I’ve ask de nanny to wash it before you back; Don’t lock your self in the room whole day.. have a live!; Here is another set of house key for you; Take this hand phone.. inside is local number so I can contact you when you are outside; Throw de empty packet in trash..”  (Wait!! are you kidding me?? Throw empty 3 in 1 coffee packet to the trash?? Do you think you are talking to a 5 years old?? Of course I know to throw used sachet to the trash…) Then he silent.. and softly said.. “You’ve been away for so long… I have to brief you everything in the house in case I am not around”

Even I think it is kind of too much because I used to do ANYTHING on MY OWN in MY WAY when I live alone… Then I think.. maybe he just try to find something to talk to… He has been all alone with mom for quiet sometime and no kids in the house. The last time they life together with their children is when we were teens. Maybe the only way they know to communicate with us is through bubbling. A lot of parent work hard their whole life, believing that sending their kids to study abroad is the best thing to do. And knowing their kids have completed their studies successfully brings priceless sense of achievement. But they forget what they might lose, they could lose time to interact and create the bond with their kids. They might lose the chance to witness the process when their kids develop their character and personality. They lose the ability to communicate with their kids as a grown up and not as a child anymore.