I have a chauvinistic dad. He is very stubborn. When he says 1, most of the time nobody dares to say 2. Ops yea, I also have a stubborn sister… she is the one (and maybe the only one) member of the family who likes to argue with him.
Somehow every time seems like she is loose (argument is not going to work with my dad, he’s kind of people that what Chinese people say “chi ruan bu chi ying” which, mean will only listen to you when you talk nicely to him… if you force him, it’s worthless) That’s why my mom’s often kidding and said that she was so stupid until marry a bull.
But I feel it’s good for her. She is a type of woman who depend on my dad so much, woman who need people to make decision for her, woman who doesn’t like to get into trouble… This maybe because my dad seldom give her chance to do a thing, he is type of man who hard to trust others. He expects everything in perfect.
So no matter how busy or how tired he is, he tends to settle everything by himself, whether it’s small thing or big thing. But as a normal person, by the end he will feel tired, bored, and finally get mad. Then he will start o grumble, feel like nobody share the responsibility with him (actually he didn’t realizes when we try to help him and when the thing is not as good as he expected, he will start exploding… how people dare to help??? )
By the way, no matter how fierce he is, he is a good father for me. Some how I admire a man like him, even some times he really like a child, said ridiculous thing and expect every one to listen to him. Maybe because of environment… He used to be like this for a long time and already take it as his habit. It’s not easy to survive in here, Indonesia, ESPECIALLY for Chinese. There are too many discrimination and unfair things that you have to face every single day and if you are not CRUEL and HARD enough, you can’t survive.
Yes, when I was a “child”, I used to afraid and even hate to see my dad shout at his people loudly (imagine… I was at up stair and still feel my fur stand when I heard his voice) I also hate to see when we meet small accident and before opponent can respond, he has already go down and quarrel with people. In facing many unfair things also, we tend to said “let it be, small-small things only don’t bother” but he persist. He hates to see unfair things and will fight until the end.
So whenever we afraid to face something, we just sneak off (to show that is nothing to do with us) and he always become that BAD PERSON who going to face those people… And when we (me, my sister, brother, or mom) met any problem like lost our purse, or hand phone or get into trouble outside… He always has his WAY to settle it. He knows many influence people and can settle many things make me feel he like a SUPER AMAN. How worse the situation is, just tell him, then maybe will get scolded, but after that, he will settled it perfectly for you. Just remember, don’t retort him and he will dote you very much.
I proud to go out with him, to let him introduce m to his friends, proud to see every times we go for trip (few families go together, with his friends family of course) He is the one who makes decision, and sometimes when having dinner at restaurant, he is the one who order most and also the one who pays. Whenever my relatives get into trouble or bullied, their 1st option is also my dad. He’s actually a good man. The only problem is his HOT TEMPER & STUBBBORNNESS.
However, these kinds of man attract my interest compare to men who are nice and kind. I love guys with strong personality, the idea is I love to conquer this kind of people. The more people afraid of them, the more I want to make them belong to me, make them love me, make them listen to me. Make them SLOWLY but SURELY depend on me. By the way, it’s not an easy thing at all. That’s why I take a long time to learn and I always use my dad as the object to train myself. Understand their behavior…
As the result, I’m the only children who can sit together with my dad, discussing things, share things and whenever my parents quarrelling, I am the only person who able to be the “middle person”. He won’t scolded me but explain to me their reasons patiently, then I will go back and repeat whole thing “in my way” to my mom. And also the only person who most of the time, can persuade him to give me what I want, to let me go to where I wish to go, to make him do what I hope him to do(of course can’t be too over).
And, if I came back for holiday, he likes to take me when he’s doing his work thing or dun for debts. They also love to take me for dinner… only me since my siblings do not like that kind of FORMAL occasion. To see man like my dad few times a year is a very wonderful thing. But how does it feel if when you marry this kind of man? Must be stress huh? My mom used to be desperate and very stress because often get scolded by my dad. She said f she has another chance, she won’t marry him.
Oh yea, my dad’s rents excavators. Sometimes I will wonder, are there that muc
h people who using that huge machine? Those stuffs are so cute for me, like toys. Anyway, I should appreciate them. Without them, my dad couldn’t send me overseas.
I more thing I can tell you about my dad. He doesn’t mind how much money I spend for food. But he HATE (listen, it’s not dislike, it’s HATE) people WASTING food. He will take us to high class restaurant and don’t mind to spend money on that but he will scold me like crazy if he saw me wasting RM0.50 small cake. Another example; he usually buy his workers mix rice. One day, 5 of his workers came to my house and my dad buy them lunch. Oh yea, 1 of them has already eaten. Still, they told my dad to buy 5 packs of rice. After my dad buy them, he saw one of them only ate the chicken and throw away the rice… since then, he NEVER buy any food for that particular guy. LISTEN… NEVER!!!
Don’t play-play with him. When he tells you something, he means it.
Somehow every time seems like she is loose (argument is not going to work with my dad, he’s kind of people that what Chinese people say “chi ruan bu chi ying” which, mean will only listen to you when you talk nicely to him… if you force him, it’s worthless) That’s why my mom’s often kidding and said that she was so stupid until marry a bull.
But I feel it’s good for her. She is a type of woman who depend on my dad so much, woman who need people to make decision for her, woman who doesn’t like to get into trouble… This maybe because my dad seldom give her chance to do a thing, he is type of man who hard to trust others. He expects everything in perfect.
So no matter how busy or how tired he is, he tends to settle everything by himself, whether it’s small thing or big thing. But as a normal person, by the end he will feel tired, bored, and finally get mad. Then he will start o grumble, feel like nobody share the responsibility with him (actually he didn’t realizes when we try to help him and when the thing is not as good as he expected, he will start exploding… how people dare to help??? )
By the way, no matter how fierce he is, he is a good father for me. Some how I admire a man like him, even some times he really like a child, said ridiculous thing and expect every one to listen to him. Maybe because of environment… He used to be like this for a long time and already take it as his habit. It’s not easy to survive in here, Indonesia, ESPECIALLY for Chinese. There are too many discrimination and unfair things that you have to face every single day and if you are not CRUEL and HARD enough, you can’t survive.
Yes, when I was a “child”, I used to afraid and even hate to see my dad shout at his people loudly (imagine… I was at up stair and still feel my fur stand when I heard his voice) I also hate to see when we meet small accident and before opponent can respond, he has already go down and quarrel with people. In facing many unfair things also, we tend to said “let it be, small-small things only don’t bother” but he persist. He hates to see unfair things and will fight until the end.
So whenever we afraid to face something, we just sneak off (to show that is nothing to do with us) and he always become that BAD PERSON who going to face those people… And when we (me, my sister, brother, or mom) met any problem like lost our purse, or hand phone or get into trouble outside… He always has his WAY to settle it. He knows many influence people and can settle many things make me feel he like a SUPER AMAN. How worse the situation is, just tell him, then maybe will get scolded, but after that, he will settled it perfectly for you. Just remember, don’t retort him and he will dote you very much.
I proud to go out with him, to let him introduce m to his friends, proud to see every times we go for trip (few families go together, with his friends family of course) He is the one who makes decision, and sometimes when having dinner at restaurant, he is the one who order most and also the one who pays. Whenever my relatives get into trouble or bullied, their 1st option is also my dad. He’s actually a good man. The only problem is his HOT TEMPER & STUBBBORNNESS.
However, these kinds of man attract my interest compare to men who are nice and kind. I love guys with strong personality, the idea is I love to conquer this kind of people. The more people afraid of them, the more I want to make them belong to me, make them love me, make them listen to me. Make them SLOWLY but SURELY depend on me. By the way, it’s not an easy thing at all. That’s why I take a long time to learn and I always use my dad as the object to train myself. Understand their behavior…
As the result, I’m the only children who can sit together with my dad, discussing things, share things and whenever my parents quarrelling, I am the only person who able to be the “middle person”. He won’t scolded me but explain to me their reasons patiently, then I will go back and repeat whole thing “in my way” to my mom. And also the only person who most of the time, can persuade him to give me what I want, to let me go to where I wish to go, to make him do what I hope him to do(of course can’t be too over).
And, if I came back for holiday, he likes to take me when he’s doing his work thing or dun for debts. They also love to take me for dinner… only me since my siblings do not like that kind of FORMAL occasion. To see man like my dad few times a year is a very wonderful thing. But how does it feel if when you marry this kind of man? Must be stress huh? My mom used to be desperate and very stress because often get scolded by my dad. She said f she has another chance, she won’t marry him.
Oh yea, my dad’s rents excavators. Sometimes I will wonder, are there that muc
h people who using that huge machine? Those stuffs are so cute for me, like toys. Anyway, I should appreciate them. Without them, my dad couldn’t send me overseas.I more thing I can tell you about my dad. He doesn’t mind how much money I spend for food. But he HATE (listen, it’s not dislike, it’s HATE) people WASTING food. He will take us to high class restaurant and don’t mind to spend money on that but he will scold me like crazy if he saw me wasting RM0.50 small cake. Another example; he usually buy his workers mix rice. One day, 5 of his workers came to my house and my dad buy them lunch. Oh yea, 1 of them has already eaten. Still, they told my dad to buy 5 packs of rice. After my dad buy them, he saw one of them only ate the chicken and throw away the rice… since then, he NEVER buy any food for that particular guy. LISTEN… NEVER!!!
Don’t play-play with him. When he tells you something, he means it.
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