Talk about scope, responsibility, and task, I am a person who very strict about this. If a thing is under your responsibility, please do it. As human beings, it’s ok if sometime you do mistake, you forget or what. But at least do something to improve. Make people believe that you regret of our fault and will do it better.
Don’t know how, I tend to expect things from others, expect thing from people around me… expect things from my friends. But I can tell you that I don’t simply expect things. I expect something only from people I care, only from people whom I sincerely treat as friends.
I expect them to be good to me, I expect they to be a person who treat others gently. In the past, I even expect guys in my club
· Not to walk alone with other guy friends and left girls behind when we going to have dinner together
· Not only ”MAN’S TALK”, make girls unable to enter that conversation, and make girls feel isolated
· Not to eat before girls’ things come
· When go for shopping, when you buy nothing and girls buy a lot of thing, OFFER yourself to help
· If there is a girl stay a bit farer and it’s already very late, accompany her
· When you going to buy drinks or what, please ask whether others want or not
· For any occasion, always bear in mind “ladies first” (of course except when going to haunted mansion)
· Never let girls waiting
· Ect …
Why do I expect that much from these guys? That’s because I wish to train them to become gentlemen. All of the things stated above are common sense what?
I used to hang out with many matures guys when I was in secondary. Most of them have are working already. They really treat you as a lady.
I have no idea why after I reach University, most of the guys must be reminded to do such things? Just can’t stand and see their childish deed. Yes, they have their own cute side, they have their own value. That’s why I want to turn them to be a guy whom girls going to mad with… Out look doesn’t matter. Many girls crush with guys not because they rich nor handsome. It’s because they CARE them.
When she didn’t go for class, he will call to ask whether she is ok. When she get sick, he will ta pao food for her or offer medication??? When he knows she’ll go to somewhere and she is alone, he will offer to accompany her. AND this is not necessary to do ONLY YOUR GIRL FRIEND but try to make it to your entire girls- friend. Brothers, just imagine, if you only do this kind of thing to your girl friend, let’s say you “patto” 1 year with her. If sue-sue you finish with her, you have wasted your 1 year time, and must invest from 0% again on other girls to adding your value in her eye.
But even after you have girl friend, you still so steady… In their heart, they will appreciate and admire you. They will also talk about your good in girls talk even though they know you are already taken and every time you have conflict with your girl friend and even though it’s both side errors, the girls will tend to stand at your side. It’s deal with psychology, its deal with your 1st impression. And at the end, you break up. It won’t be a hard thing for you to get another one, because your reputation already too good. REMEMBER, don’t play-play with girls. Their mouth can be BETTER than CNN. If you offend them, they will destroy you, but if you clever enough to use it, all the benefits will back to you. So friends, be a steady & gentle man to every girl. Create win-win situation for yourselves and others. That’s your scope.
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Now, my dear sisters, since we already done with their scope, let’s talk about our scope. We must be flexible, depend on what kind of condition men put us into. There is nothing much I can day as a girl-friend. I can only tell you to carry out your nature as a woman, be a caring person.
As a girl friend, you should make him proud of you. Once you become somebody’s girlfriend, please behave (take care of your manners), who knows? Wherever you go, you will see or meet his friends? And if you do unfavorable things, what you can do is just escape and escape. But if you behave, WHOEVER!! Just come and see, you are welcome to observe and evaluate me, because I’m not afraid. Won’t it be better that way?
As a wife, even I know if you are capable in get all the things done, but please, don’t make it the habit. Even you are “da nu ren” a big woman… Try o put down your ego and be a “Xiao Nu Ren”… except you decide to marry a “Xiao Nan Ren” that you wish you can take care (but are you sure?) Let them to be used to solve BIG thing. There are born for that. Don’t ever stick to a wrong understanding “By the name of love, I’ll cover all the responsibility for him. By the name of love, It’s ok for me to do everything” You are actually getting yourself into trouble. If you settle every big and small thing by yourself, your husband will feel that he is useless, you are look down at him. If he doesn’t think that way, then he will think. May wife is a capable woman. I don’t need to bother a thing. So everything even he can did it, he will get used to let you do them. Until one time you feel tired and will start to complain,”Why do other people’s wives can be so enjoying? Their husband bother every single thing for them, what they need to do is just cook and wait for their beloved husband come back from work, why I need to fix the lamp, repair furniture, paid for insurance , ext…” You have contributed so much but once you stop…. People will said that you like to complain, you do not understand and compassion enough to your husband, people feel you suppose to do that, since you used to do it all the time. People will blame you. Did you forget? You are the one who start it. You create that condition. You strive to do this all by what you said with “by the name of love”
If it is his responsibility, just let him do. Let him struggle outside, let him learn and let him improve. Just mind your own scope, don’t let him bother things at home, don’t make him bother by obeying your children education and manner. Don’t spoil his reputation in the eye of outsiders, Do taka care of the house, take care of every family member’s health.
Of course I know it just a basic thing and it’s not enough. I didn’t said that woman need no learn how to drive, I never mention that woman no need to learn how to fix the furniture, I didn’t stated that woman not suppose to settle big thing. OFCOURSE, women HAVE to KNOW about all these things… “in case”
.
In the eye of your relative or friends, you are a weak, and maybe innocent and even stupid woman. But when your husband needs to out on duty for weeks and unluckily your mother in law fall a serious sick and need to do operation, they SURPRISE to see you drive a lone along 2 hours to other state to reach the well-known hospital
Everyday, settle all the procedures, make every single decision, and take care of her until she get well.
They will also shock when they know your husband stuck in the conflict with his superior or business partner and you can just SETTLE it for him without let him even aware about that and when he happily come back to home and tell you about this news, you just give him a warm smile and said “good loh…”.
When you ask me why I brave enough to do that? This time I can proudly tell you this because “by the name of love” Don’t you think using this words effectively will brings so much impact with different level of contribution? As a wife, don’t tend to be looked too smart, because if you do so, people will only expect more and more from you. Keep your knowledge, save your energy. Use it at the right time then people will appreciate what you did. Be a smart contributor. That’s your scope.
Don’t know how, I tend to expect things from others, expect thing from people around me… expect things from my friends. But I can tell you that I don’t simply expect things. I expect something only from people I care, only from people whom I sincerely treat as friends.
I expect them to be good to me, I expect they to be a person who treat others gently. In the past, I even expect guys in my club
· Not to walk alone with other guy friends and left girls behind when we going to have dinner together
· Not only ”MAN’S TALK”, make girls unable to enter that conversation, and make girls feel isolated
· Not to eat before girls’ things come
· When go for shopping, when you buy nothing and girls buy a lot of thing, OFFER yourself to help
· If there is a girl stay a bit farer and it’s already very late, accompany her
· When you going to buy drinks or what, please ask whether others want or not
· For any occasion, always bear in mind “ladies first” (of course except when going to haunted mansion)
· Never let girls waiting
· Ect …
Why do I expect that much from these guys? That’s because I wish to train them to become gentlemen. All of the things stated above are common sense what?
I used to hang out with many matures guys when I was in secondary. Most of them have are working already. They really treat you as a lady.
I have no idea why after I reach University, most of the guys must be reminded to do such things? Just can’t stand and see their childish deed. Yes, they have their own cute side, they have their own value. That’s why I want to turn them to be a guy whom girls going to mad with… Out look doesn’t matter. Many girls crush with guys not because they rich nor handsome. It’s because they CARE them.
When she didn’t go for class, he will call to ask whether she is ok. When she get sick, he will ta pao food for her or offer medication??? When he knows she’ll go to somewhere and she is alone, he will offer to accompany her. AND this is not necessary to do ONLY YOUR GIRL FRIEND but try to make it to your entire girls- friend. Brothers, just imagine, if you only do this kind of thing to your girl friend, let’s say you “patto” 1 year with her. If sue-sue you finish with her, you have wasted your 1 year time, and must invest from 0% again on other girls to adding your value in her eye.
But even after you have girl friend, you still so steady… In their heart, they will appreciate and admire you. They will also talk about your good in girls talk even though they know you are already taken and every time you have conflict with your girl friend and even though it’s both side errors, the girls will tend to stand at your side. It’s deal with psychology, its deal with your 1st impression. And at the end, you break up. It won’t be a hard thing for you to get another one, because your reputation already too good. REMEMBER, don’t play-play with girls. Their mouth can be BETTER than CNN. If you offend them, they will destroy you, but if you clever enough to use it, all the benefits will back to you. So friends, be a steady & gentle man to every girl. Create win-win situation for yourselves and others. That’s your scope.
~ ~ ~ ~ ~ @ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~
Now, my dear sisters, since we already done with their scope, let’s talk about our scope. We must be flexible, depend on what kind of condition men put us into. There is nothing much I can day as a girl-friend. I can only tell you to carry out your nature as a woman, be a caring person.
As a girl friend, you should make him proud of you. Once you become somebody’s girlfriend, please behave (take care of your manners), who knows? Wherever you go, you will see or meet his friends? And if you do unfavorable things, what you can do is just escape and escape. But if you behave, WHOEVER!! Just come and see, you are welcome to observe and evaluate me, because I’m not afraid. Won’t it be better that way?
As a wife, even I know if you are capable in get all the things done, but please, don’t make it the habit. Even you are “da nu ren” a big woman… Try o put down your ego and be a “Xiao Nu Ren”… except you decide to marry a “Xiao Nan Ren” that you wish you can take care (but are you sure?) Let them to be used to solve BIG thing. There are born for that. Don’t ever stick to a wrong understanding “By the name of love, I’ll cover all the responsibility for him. By the name of love, It’s ok for me to do everything” You are actually getting yourself into trouble. If you settle every big and small thing by yourself, your husband will feel that he is useless, you are look down at him. If he doesn’t think that way, then he will think. May wife is a capable woman. I don’t need to bother a thing. So everything even he can did it, he will get used to let you do them. Until one time you feel tired and will start to complain,”Why do other people’s wives can be so enjoying? Their husband bother every single thing for them, what they need to do is just cook and wait for their beloved husband come back from work, why I need to fix the lamp, repair furniture, paid for insurance , ext…” You have contributed so much but once you stop…. People will said that you like to complain, you do not understand and compassion enough to your husband, people feel you suppose to do that, since you used to do it all the time. People will blame you. Did you forget? You are the one who start it. You create that condition. You strive to do this all by what you said with “by the name of love”
If it is his responsibility, just let him do. Let him struggle outside, let him learn and let him improve. Just mind your own scope, don’t let him bother things at home, don’t make him bother by obeying your children education and manner. Don’t spoil his reputation in the eye of outsiders, Do taka care of the house, take care of every family member’s health.
Of course I know it just a basic thing and it’s not enough. I didn’t said that woman need no learn how to drive, I never mention that woman no need to learn how to fix the furniture, I didn’t stated that woman not suppose to settle big thing. OFCOURSE, women HAVE to KNOW about all these things… “in case”
.In the eye of your relative or friends, you are a weak, and maybe innocent and even stupid woman. But when your husband needs to out on duty for weeks and unluckily your mother in law fall a serious sick and need to do operation, they SURPRISE to see you drive a lone along 2 hours to other state to reach the well-known hospital
Everyday, settle all the procedures, make every single decision, and take care of her until she get well.
They will also shock when they know your husband stuck in the conflict with his superior or business partner and you can just SETTLE it for him without let him even aware about that and when he happily come back to home and tell you about this news, you just give him a warm smile and said “good loh…”.
When you ask me why I brave enough to do that? This time I can proudly tell you this because “by the name of love” Don’t you think using this words effectively will brings so much impact with different level of contribution? As a wife, don’t tend to be looked too smart, because if you do so, people will only expect more and more from you. Keep your knowledge, save your energy. Use it at the right time then people will appreciate what you did. Be a smart contributor. That’s your scope.
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