Many friends (especially male- friends) say that I have a very big problem. They said that I like to say something which needs further elaboration to really understand what actually I’m trying to say. They said I like to “pusing” instead of straight to the point. It often left them with head-ache because they need to guess and it gives them pressure.
My dear friends, don’t you know that men’s languages are different from girls? Do you know that girls hard to say something too direct? Do you know that their brains’ structures are set to say that way?
Your boy friend told you, “I will call you tonight, after I get back from office” (his company just lunch a new branch and you know he is very busy since morning.)
You tell him gently, “no need, I know you are very tired already, have a good rest and remember to take dinner” You feel like by saying this word, you are an understanding girl friend. That night, you wait for his call like a desperate woman at your house until very late. The next day, you call him ask why he didn’t call you and with innocent face, he told you “you asked me not to call, don’t you?” Haiz…
Today is your birthday, a couple weeks before that day, your boy friend had already asked you what gift you wish to get. You told him with sweetest smile “what present? We are still student, still not able to earn money by ourselves. Don’t waste. Save the money for your own usage. As long as you be with me, accompany me to have dinner, it just enough.” You think he must be appreciated because he can find such a good girl hat can think for his own good. Happily, you wait your birthday coming, what surprise will he gives to his “good” girl friend? And he really that “obey” to your words until he really give nothing to you as present on your birthday. (You wonder will he be that obedient when you prohibited him from looking for sexy girl when he goes outside)
He calls you, asks you where you are and what are you doing and you tell him that you are shopping with your girls- friend… and you all are almost finished. His house is quite far from that shopping complex and he asks whether you want him to fetch you. You just feel it is a general manner to tell him “it’s ok, we can go back by taxi” Then he said, ”ok, be careful”
Let’s see another example. This is your 1st time dating with a guy and you are going to cinema. Politely, he asks you what kind of music you want to see. To show your respect and give him a good impression that you are not a troublesome girl, you try to tell him indirectly that you don’t like to watch horror movie. You tell him like this “It’s ok, you make the decision. But horror movie seems like quite scary.” Then he tells you, “If you have no idea, then we watch horror movie. I like to watch horror movie.” In the cinema, when you see the awful phenomena in that movie, you become angry and up et, wondering why the stupid guy can’t get what you mean.
After movie session, it’s time for dinner. He said; there are Japanese, western, Chinese and fast food restaurants around here. Which one you prefer? Again. To prove that you are not choosy in food but try to avoid one of the restaurants which you don’t prefer, you politely tell him “Never mind, I eat all of those foods, but fast food restaurant is not good for health, make people easier to get fat ” (you don’t say you don’t want, hoping he will get you.) After walk around, he tells you, ”We eat KFC, faster ad cheaper .” At the end, you eat the fried chicken and scolded in your heart. You have been tried to avoid it for few months and success to loose your weight and now this man mess it up. When he takes you back, you say nothing but you know that you WON’T, NEVER AND EVER hangs out with this man anymore. End of the story.
When will you become clever enough to interpret what I am trying to say? I know you are tired after working that long and I don’t hope that you are too tired until fall sick. But I more hope you can tell me “Never mind, I will call you. No matter how tired I am, after listen to your sound, all the tiredness will gone. ”
Yes, I told you not to give me a thing and I meant it that time. Because of I really meant it, that’s why I feel that I deserved to get appreciation. I know this is a bit complicated… NO, it’s very complicated. But this is how women’s brain work.
You are not wrong, I do say that you no need to fetch me… but which girl won’t feel happy if her boy-friend contribute something in front of her girl- friends, won’t she feel proud of him if HE PERSIST TO COME EVEN AFTYER “YOU SAID NO NEED”??? and the point is her girl- friends listen to your conversation. You can tell your friends with helpless voice “He always like that, that stupid guy, I already told him no need to come; it takes him at least 1 hour to get here. But he persists. Don’t know what inside his mind.” Then your friends will envy you, praise that you are so lucky, can manage to get that kind of good guy.
I know you are tired of working. But if you really love me, no matter how tired you are, you will still call me. Even I worry that you will feel tired, I will be touched if you still call me
I know we are still student and your budget is limited. But if with this limited cash you still can manage to buy me something, I will feel that I am “someone” in your heart. It’s not the thing what kind of gift it is. But it meant very much to me since it give me a confirmation that I have a position in your heart.
I know it will be troublesome for you to purposely drive a quite long distance only to fetch me and my friends to send them home. But I can’t deny that deep inside my heart; I still hope that you can make it.
Whenever your girl friend tells you, “it’s ok. You don’t need to do that”, even they really meant it, pleases bear in mind, there is always a words behind that words. That is “If you love me, you will do that even I forbid you to do so” or “if you love me, you will know what I deserve even before I speak out””if you love me, you will know that I don’t like horror movie” (this one, of course a girl won’t speak out, because of their pride… but they will take note in their heart). For men, this might be something that makes them head ache or even thing it’s “lebih”, but for women, that is romantic.
Girls tend to test her spouse’s love by set so many traps and it’s up to the guys to decide whether he will get praise or get scolded by his girl friend. Its all depend of their cautious in analyze and interpreting women’s language. It’s not easy and need a quite long time to learn all these but once you learn and know how to use this skill, you will find it as a useful thing that can help you to avoid many unnecessary conflicts with your girl friend or wife.
The concept is same with; if a guy tells a girl “I love you as who you are” or “I love you… not your body” (who knows whether you just simply said or it really come from your heart) it will be easier to actually make the girl sleep with him AND at her free will compare to if he directly tell a girl “if you love me, you will want to sleep with me” So actually, not only girl will “pusing”, a lot of greedy man all over the world are also do the same thing.
Before we sleep, we will chit-chat about things that happen this whole day. We will do some sharing until we really sleepy and fall a sleep. One day, at the middle of out conversation when both of us already lay on the bed, I suddenly ask you “are you thirsty?” You said “no”. We continue our conversation. After 15vminutes I ask you,”Do you want to have some drink?” You told me, “No, It’s ok”
Then we continue talking for another 10 minutes until I suddenly ask you, “Do you love me?” stupid you still blur-blur and answered “sure, why?”
“If you love me, then get me some drink.” That night, he laugh until fall down from the bed, he told me that he has no idea why I am not just straight away ask him to get me water. The thing is I expect that he will say “no, I am not thirsty yet, how bout you? Are you thirsty? I will get you some water.”
You asked me, “Why women are so hard to be understood?” I replied, “Why men are so hard to understand us?”
My dear friends, don’t you know that men’s languages are different from girls? Do you know that girls hard to say something too direct? Do you know that their brains’ structures are set to say that way?
Your boy friend told you, “I will call you tonight, after I get back from office” (his company just lunch a new branch and you know he is very busy since morning.)
You tell him gently, “no need, I know you are very tired already, have a good rest and remember to take dinner” You feel like by saying this word, you are an understanding girl friend. That night, you wait for his call like a desperate woman at your house until very late. The next day, you call him ask why he didn’t call you and with innocent face, he told you “you asked me not to call, don’t you?” Haiz…
Today is your birthday, a couple weeks before that day, your boy friend had already asked you what gift you wish to get. You told him with sweetest smile “what present? We are still student, still not able to earn money by ourselves. Don’t waste. Save the money for your own usage. As long as you be with me, accompany me to have dinner, it just enough.” You think he must be appreciated because he can find such a good girl hat can think for his own good. Happily, you wait your birthday coming, what surprise will he gives to his “good” girl friend? And he really that “obey” to your words until he really give nothing to you as present on your birthday. (You wonder will he be that obedient when you prohibited him from looking for sexy girl when he goes outside)
He calls you, asks you where you are and what are you doing and you tell him that you are shopping with your girls- friend… and you all are almost finished. His house is quite far from that shopping complex and he asks whether you want him to fetch you. You just feel it is a general manner to tell him “it’s ok, we can go back by taxi” Then he said, ”ok, be careful”
Let’s see another example. This is your 1st time dating with a guy and you are going to cinema. Politely, he asks you what kind of music you want to see. To show your respect and give him a good impression that you are not a troublesome girl, you try to tell him indirectly that you don’t like to watch horror movie. You tell him like this “It’s ok, you make the decision. But horror movie seems like quite scary.” Then he tells you, “If you have no idea, then we watch horror movie. I like to watch horror movie.” In the cinema, when you see the awful phenomena in that movie, you become angry and up et, wondering why the stupid guy can’t get what you mean.
After movie session, it’s time for dinner. He said; there are Japanese, western, Chinese and fast food restaurants around here. Which one you prefer? Again. To prove that you are not choosy in food but try to avoid one of the restaurants which you don’t prefer, you politely tell him “Never mind, I eat all of those foods, but fast food restaurant is not good for health, make people easier to get fat ” (you don’t say you don’t want, hoping he will get you.) After walk around, he tells you, ”We eat KFC, faster ad cheaper .” At the end, you eat the fried chicken and scolded in your heart. You have been tried to avoid it for few months and success to loose your weight and now this man mess it up. When he takes you back, you say nothing but you know that you WON’T, NEVER AND EVER hangs out with this man anymore. End of the story.
When will you become clever enough to interpret what I am trying to say? I know you are tired after working that long and I don’t hope that you are too tired until fall sick. But I more hope you can tell me “Never mind, I will call you. No matter how tired I am, after listen to your sound, all the tiredness will gone. ”
Yes, I told you not to give me a thing and I meant it that time. Because of I really meant it, that’s why I feel that I deserved to get appreciation. I know this is a bit complicated… NO, it’s very complicated. But this is how women’s brain work.
You are not wrong, I do say that you no need to fetch me… but which girl won’t feel happy if her boy-friend contribute something in front of her girl- friends, won’t she feel proud of him if HE PERSIST TO COME EVEN AFTYER “YOU SAID NO NEED”??? and the point is her girl- friends listen to your conversation. You can tell your friends with helpless voice “He always like that, that stupid guy, I already told him no need to come; it takes him at least 1 hour to get here. But he persists. Don’t know what inside his mind.” Then your friends will envy you, praise that you are so lucky, can manage to get that kind of good guy.
I know you are tired of working. But if you really love me, no matter how tired you are, you will still call me. Even I worry that you will feel tired, I will be touched if you still call me
I know we are still student and your budget is limited. But if with this limited cash you still can manage to buy me something, I will feel that I am “someone” in your heart. It’s not the thing what kind of gift it is. But it meant very much to me since it give me a confirmation that I have a position in your heart.
I know it will be troublesome for you to purposely drive a quite long distance only to fetch me and my friends to send them home. But I can’t deny that deep inside my heart; I still hope that you can make it.
Whenever your girl friend tells you, “it’s ok. You don’t need to do that”, even they really meant it, pleases bear in mind, there is always a words behind that words. That is “If you love me, you will do that even I forbid you to do so” or “if you love me, you will know what I deserve even before I speak out””if you love me, you will know that I don’t like horror movie” (this one, of course a girl won’t speak out, because of their pride… but they will take note in their heart). For men, this might be something that makes them head ache or even thing it’s “lebih”, but for women, that is romantic.
Girls tend to test her spouse’s love by set so many traps and it’s up to the guys to decide whether he will get praise or get scolded by his girl friend. Its all depend of their cautious in analyze and interpreting women’s language. It’s not easy and need a quite long time to learn all these but once you learn and know how to use this skill, you will find it as a useful thing that can help you to avoid many unnecessary conflicts with your girl friend or wife.
The concept is same with; if a guy tells a girl “I love you as who you are” or “I love you… not your body” (who knows whether you just simply said or it really come from your heart) it will be easier to actually make the girl sleep with him AND at her free will compare to if he directly tell a girl “if you love me, you will want to sleep with me” So actually, not only girl will “pusing”, a lot of greedy man all over the world are also do the same thing.
Before we sleep, we will chit-chat about things that happen this whole day. We will do some sharing until we really sleepy and fall a sleep. One day, at the middle of out conversation when both of us already lay on the bed, I suddenly ask you “are you thirsty?” You said “no”. We continue our conversation. After 15vminutes I ask you,”Do you want to have some drink?” You told me, “No, It’s ok”
Then we continue talking for another 10 minutes until I suddenly ask you, “Do you love me?” stupid you still blur-blur and answered “sure, why?”
“If you love me, then get me some drink.” That night, he laugh until fall down from the bed, he told me that he has no idea why I am not just straight away ask him to get me water. The thing is I expect that he will say “no, I am not thirsty yet, how bout you? Are you thirsty? I will get you some water.”
You asked me, “Why women are so hard to be understood?” I replied, “Why men are so hard to understand us?”
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